Jennifer Lopez Talks Divorce and Marriage Life

In a recent interview with Loaded magazine, popular singer, Jennifer Lopez talked about her marriage life and exes.

Jennifer said she always felt like she’s the one at fault when her men dumped her.

Jennifer told Loaded magazine that “I’ve been in relationships where there has been infidelity and you’re left to feel like you did something wrong. Like there’s something wrong with you, you’re not enough, all of those feelings that we struggle with.’ she said “Men and women go through this by the way, it’s not just a woman thing,”

The singer said after her third husband, Marc Anthony dumped her, she refused to be bitter.

“After my divorce it was about growing and realizing things about myself that I could share with people and realizing that life is hard and sh*t happens and it gets bad sometimes but you’re going to dance again. You can always succumb to the depression and to the negative and become bitter, or you can become better, I like better than bitter.”

The singer and actress has had a string of high profile relationships, has been engaged four times and married - and divorced - three. Her last relationship, with her former back-up dancer Casper Smart, ended amid accusations he had cheated on her with two transsexuals, a claim he has denied.

J. Lo claimed that since her divorce from husband number three Marc Anthony, she has refused to let herself become bitter.

'After my divorce it was about growing and realizing things about myself that I could share with people and realizing that life is hard and sh*t happens and it gets bad sometimes but you’re going to dance again.

'You can always succumb to the depression and to the negative and become bitter, or you can become better,' she said.'I like better than bitter.'

Should she ever want to net herself another man, the 45-year-old insisted she can still compete against a younger field.

'Before, the thought was that you were in your twenties and that’s when you’re at your best and after that you go downhill,' she said. 'I think that idea has changed and so we are attractive, we are more interesting, we are more self-assured than we were ten years before and there’s something sexy and attractive about that to all men.

'I always felt kind of sexy,' she added. 'I think I feel more like myself now. I just know myself better and that’s sexy.'

Jenny from the Block's most recent screen outing, Boy Next Door, saw her hook up with a guy half her age, with predictably disastrous results. Despite how sexy Lopez insists she feels, she conceded she was nervous filming sex scenes with the 27-year-old hunk.

'I think everybody is always nervous when you have a scene like that in the movie. The studio are nervous, the actors are nervous and the director, you know, kind of has a vision of what they want,' she said. 

'It’s about finding the balance between all of those things so that it’s actually about the story and not the sex.

'Our job is to make everything look natural,' she continued. 'It’s a very vulnerable position to be in. It’s not something you ever get used to as an actress.'